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I write about the things we would rather avoid. Relationship. Desire. Shame. Masculinity. Femininity. Sex. Intimacy. The Self. And what becomes possible when we're willing to look.
I Was Going to Be the Perfect Husband—Whether She Liked It or Not
What happens when devotion is tangled with fear? A personal essay about love, self-abandonment, and the painful discovery that trying to be everything for someone else can cost you yourself.
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Some of my most important ideas begin with questions about love, desire, and the person we become inside relationship.
What Men Aren't Taught About Marriage
What if some of the most important things a man needs to know about marriage are the things he was never taught?
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What rejection can reveal about a man's relationship with his desire, his worth, and his capacity to remain grounded.
Read the essay The Self / RelationshipThe Little Boy Wants Her to Choose Him. The Man Wants Her to Choose Herself.
A different way of understanding love, freedom, masculine security, and the need to be chosen.
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