Your relationship
is the mirror.
You are the work.
I work with men, women and couples at the places where love gets real: intimacy, conflict, polarity, sex, desire, truth, and the patterns we can no longer outrun.
“Grateful for the Masculine and Feminine in relationship course we took with Saadya Notik that made more of an impact on us than years of talk therapy had.”
The problem
is not the problem.
Sexlessness. Conflict. Resentment. Withdrawal. Chasing. Collapse. Control.
These are not isolated issues. They are where the deeper pattern becomes visible.
Relationship exposes the places you abandon yourself, protect yourself, perform, control, harden, pursue, disappear, or hand your power away.
The places where relationship hurts are the places where the work is waiting.
Where we work.
Intimacy
Being seen. Staying present. Emotional safety. Rupture and repair. Remaining connected without leaving yourself.
Masculinity + Femininity
Leadership. Receptivity. Polarity. Attraction. Trust. The energetic dynamics underneath relationship.
Sex + Desire
Shame. Pleasure. Erotic truth. Rejection. Aliveness. Sexuality as one of the clearest windows into the self.
Marriage
A living relationship in which everything unresolved eventually asks to be seen, felt, owned and transformed.
The work has a place.
Some of this work happens on Zoom. Some of it happens here.
The Healing Cabin is my private space in New York for in-person coaching, couples work, immersive sessions, retreats and integration.
A physical container for work that asks for more time, more quiet, more honesty and more depth.
I didn’t learn this from the outside.
My own marriage brought me to the edge of everything I thought I understood about love, intimacy, masculinity, responsibility and myself.
Trying harder to fix the relationship became another way of avoiding my own work.
When I turned toward myself—to my fear, control, collapse, sexuality, responsibility and the places I had lost my center— the relationship changed too.
That experience is part of the foundation of how I work today.
The work looks different in every life. The shift is lived.
“Doing the group with Saadya was one of the best investments I’ve made. I’ve gained an incredible amount of clarity across so many areas of my life, and I’ve come away with a much stronger sense of direction, confidence and purpose.”
“I’ve already seen the difference in myself and in our relationship, and I know this is something I’ll carry with me for the rest of my life.”
“I’ve learned how to let myself be held instead of fighting it or feeling like I have to manage everything alone.”
“It was a doorway into an entirely new way of seeing myself, my relationships, and the role I play in this world as a man.”
“We just had the most incredible sex. I had such ease telling her exactly what I wanted when I wanted... I’ve never experienced sex like this before.”
Choose the container that fits the work.
GROUP Coaching
Live men’s and women’s cohorts exploring relationship, masculine + feminine polarity, intimacy, sexuality, self-trust and the patterns that shape how you love.
1:1 Coaching
Private work for men and women around relationship, identity, intimacy, sexuality, healing, leadership and personal evolution.
Couples Coaching
Ongoing private coaching for couples working with conflict, polarity, communication, sexuality, trust, repair and deeper intimacy.
Couples Medicine Retreat
An immersive private experience for couples ready to step outside ordinary life, slow everything down, tell the truth and reconnect at depth.
The work,
distilled.
Focused teachings on masculinity, relationship and repair. Watch in one sitting. Bring the work into your life immediately.
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Baby.
Our unfiltered conversations on marriage, love, sex, healing, polarity and spirituality.
Two people who almost didn’t make it— talking honestly about what it took to build a different marriage.
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