Step outside
ordinary life.
Meet each other again.
A private, immersive couples experience designed to move beyond the conversations you keep repeating and into deeper truth, intimacy, polarity, witnessing and connection.
“Amazing experience, exactly what we needed, and exactly WHEN we needed it.”
“This was a thought-provoking, bonding experience.”
Some relationships need more than an hour at a time.
An hour can help you see the pattern. A retreat gives us enough space to enter it, slow it down, feel what lives underneath it, and work with the relationship as it is actually happening.
This is not a weekend getaway and it is not twenty-four hours of talking.
There is preparation. Inward work. Relational work. Masculine and feminine polarity. Honesty. Witnessing. Time alone together. Rest. Integration.
The structure is intentional. The work itself stays alive.
The arc of the retreat.
Prepare
A proprietary intake questionnaire, one joint intake session, and individual sessions with each partner. We arrive already knowing what the work is asking for.
Arrive
We begin with an opening circle: structure, guidance, intentions, agreements and the orientation for the time together.
Turn inward
The first movement is inward. Enough space to leave ordinary conversation, listen more closely, and make contact with what sits underneath the usual protections.
Meet
We move into relational work: masculine and feminine dynamics, original wounding, honesty, rupture, desire, witnessing and being witnessed.
Be together
You are given private time together without me in the room— space for the work to become yours, not simply something facilitated for you.
Integrate
We return the next morning, make meaning of what happened, and begin translating insight into the life and relationship you are returning to.
Stop trying to win the case.
Most couples arrive with two compelling stories about what the other person needs to understand.
I am not interested in deciding whose story wins.
I am interested in the living dynamic that both of you are creating— the place where each of your wounds, protections, desires and ways of loving meet each other in real time.
That is where relationship becomes the work.
We work with what is alive between you— not a generic couples curriculum.
Polarity
Masculine and feminine dynamics, trust, leadership, receptivity, attraction and the places polarity has collapsed.
Original wounds
The old injuries that did not begin in this marriage but now live inside it— and the strategies built to survive them.
Honesty
Saying what is true without turning truth into punishment, performance, persuasion or control.
Intimacy
Emotional and erotic closeness, being seen, staying present, sensuality, sexuality and allowing yourselves to actually be affected by one another.
“You gave me the gift of a better marriage, and I hope to be able to grow that seed. I will forever be indebted to you.”
The point is not to have a profound twenty-four hours. It is to return to a different relationship.
“I so desperately wanted to create a baseline of seeing each other for who we truly are, and to be able to see through the noise at any time, to be able to look at each other and see each other’s souls. This experience helped create that pathway.”
“The format was great. We each felt heard, you respected our boundaries and used information from each of us to help the ‘us’ grow.”
“The sex we’ve had since the retreat was absolutely amazing, and there was a degree of honesty and freedom that was never there.”
“The gift you’ve given us, and by extension our kids, is one of the most meaningful gifts anyone has ever given me.”
More than the overnight.
The retreat is normally held at the Healing Cabin in New York. When agreed upon in advance, it can also be held at another destination; the couple covers the additional venue and travel expenses.
A complete immersive container.
$5,500
The $550 initial consultation is credited toward the retreat when we decide to move forward.
Not every couple needs an immersive retreat.
If what you need is steady, ongoing relational work over several months, Couples Coaching may be the better container.
Tell me where your relationship is.
Use the form below to tell me what is happening between you, what you keep running into, and what you hope could become possible. I read every inquiry. If this retreat is the right container, we’ll begin with the initial consultation.